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How To Have A Life And Social Media Too

You know that sound screeching sound you hear from a tyre that breaks through wreck less driving? That’s social media (once in a while). A car that needs servicing but ‘its just going to have to wait.’ There’s not much redemption ‘online’ however, we (they; us; over there but not including you & I; ) are experts on… Everything. I’m glad I can say I’m not addicted to social media, nor is it life or death if I’m not on every-single-platform-for-the-sake of it. Nope.

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I’m at that stage now where there’s got to be a purpose. If its not blog related or something that makes sense right now? It can wait. All I know is, being “away” helps me plan and having time to myself, helps me in my self-development. Its the mediocrity of “people” the q & ‘s that make me shy away so now you know.

If we spent more time working on ourselves than others like a project; oh, we’d be complete, almost! Too much Investing (whatever that may be) into something that brings little fulfilment, can leave you wanting- and with needs still unmet.

Sure, you’re familiar with the saying ‘material things can’t bring you happiness,’ well neither can a job, a relationship or other things we expect to complete us if we’re not already whole. Some of us live vicariously through others on social media, we want to see what others are doing. Not just a celebrity, but our peers, acquaintances, even strangers- if they tick the right box.

So, what are some of the pros & cons of social media?

Here’s a list I made earlier:


  • You’ve got something to say or good content? you can share it! Platforms are there to use.
  • We can connect with people we don’t know and reconnect with those we do, whether they’re a thousand miles away or ten. Its great for networking too.
  • You’re guaranteed to see something that will make you laugh or make you think.

Finally, news comes fast. The rise in technology means a lot of us are on our smartphones, tablets etc. That’s one click from your favourite source of info…

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Social Media brings people together :)


  • As mentioned earlier in my post, ‘we spend more time working on others’  without realizing the emotional lackluster, in ourselves.
  • If you can’t “outdo” your last post, you’ll waste time trying to outdo others.
  • Things that you post online can be misinterpreted, or taken out of context.

*Taking time out from some social media doesn’t mean something’s wrong. Having a life, includes being offline, too.

“Where you been?”

“Obviously… I’m up to something.”

Investing in myself is as much about finances as it is emotionally, mentally, career wise and my overall well-being. It’s this notion, ‘investment,’ that matters when its all said and done.

‘How To Have A Life And Social Media Too’

Thanks for reading!

Happy International Women’s Day

I’d like to congratulate all the women who have defied the odds, overcome adversity, challenged the status quo or been confronted with #MeToo. Once upon a time women weren’t allowed to vote, and while so much has changed, we still fight for equal pay. As a young Black woman, knowing how far the women before me have come, testifies to perseverance. Despite underrepresentation, knowing who your core self is as a person, is the only truth.

We’re all born with labels, nine times out of ten assigned gender roles. It can bind us together, separate or even temporarily divide us, so it’s important to consider different factors that make today what it is.

I have found myself in male dominated situations and my ‘backs to the wall’ with all the ‘male banter’ & sexist jokes you could think of, and I’ve had to just roll with the punches.



Women’s day, can only truly feel more validated if more women stick together. I’m not concerned with a battle of the sexes, but to embrace other women more authentically. Naturally, there’s differences based on personality traits, and we connect with who we connect with however, until we celebrate each other everyday, this need to compete with each other will remain. Healthy competition is good, but your threat might not be the other girl interviewee in the room full of men, this time round.

I love being a woman, and that there’s no one way of being other than myself.

I have my days where I feel really independent, and that I can do anything being I’m my own woman. Then there’s days where I think; its not easy, not as people may think it is sometimes. There’s a strength that I pull through from women in my life, including those that came before me and icons of today.

Happy International Women’s Day!

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