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Mental Health: Do we really Care?

The term ‘Mental Health’ has been around for years and those within the Health & Social Care industry will be all too familiar with this phrase. Whilst ‘Mental Health’ came with a slight taboo in the past, (it was rare people spoke about it let alone own it publicly) –in recent times, Mental Health has been brought to the forefront through Charitable/Mental Health Organisations. 

Celebrities have also raised awareness as with the media within popular culture. With celebrities advocating’ for solutions and those that have/may experience Mental Health illness – for more attention to be brought to; you’ve either heard of the term or familiar with it. I’ve always placed importance on Mental Health and try not to separate it from physical & emotional wellbeing. In the sense that, I understand the importance of my physical health as with Mental – Health. Having a healthy balance with Mind, Body & Soul. (This includes who we surround ourselves with or what we’re exposed to). 

While studying parts of Psychology plays a part in how I see things, I’ve always been in tune with myself emotionally and understand that before I can do or take care of anyone else, I must take care of myself. It’s something to consider with relationships and our expectations with what we expect from our partner. Are we placing too much burden on others, or expect them to fix our ‘broken-selves’ which no one, can fix? Understanding this, I think, is key to a lot of relationships and reasons why they breakdown. Either way, Mental Health, is something that we should all care about as we all have it.  

There’s been a huge number of celebrities that have come out to talk about their issues with Mental Health and how they’ve survived it. The list includes:

  • Cara Delevingne
  • Selena Gomez
  • Halle Berry
  • Demi Lovato
  • Big Sean
  • Jay Z
  • Michelle Williams 
  • Justin Bieber and the list goes on.

Likewise, it doesn’t matter who you are famous or not, anyone can be vulnerable when it comes to Mental Health. In the past week, the Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle revealed in a clip of an upcoming documentary, on ‘motherhood’ that ‘no-one has asked’ about her being “okay.” With the recent backlash from the media; criticism she faces and the royal couple speaking out against the leaking of her letter to her father, I’ll be surprised if she hasn’t experienced a mini-meltdown behind the scenes, or prone to one. Seeing some of the reaction yesterday to the trending #Weloveyoumeghan, I managed to see some of the twitter responses. The few that I saw, made me ponder whether collectively as a whole, people care about those who are experiencing difficulties. 

I’m sure many came to her support and it was nice to see someone come fully to her defence but fan or not, if people can see something going on why is their usually an attack first before help is offered. 

You don’t have to like or be a fan of someone, to show them support. Either someone you know has experienced hard times, or, maybe a friend of a friend has overcome something major in their lives. Everyone needs time to heal and without judgement. While we may have added our two cents about a situation we think someone could have handled better (whether you knew them personally or not); if we were in that situation the last thing we’d want or expect – is to be judged or overly criticized. Sometimes it’s over something we can’t change. This is why some people don’t like to talk about their feelings or find it difficult to open up.  No matter what, always remember to take care of yourself.

There’s always going to be people that form their own opinions, haters or those that think you should be living your life the same as theirs. For as long as your happy and not hurting anyone, keep your head up high and carry on with your life. 

We’re all a work in progress and no-one’s perfect, no matter how hard you strive to be the best. But how we deal with people we see going through something depends on our mind-set. Our values to an extent, and how we treat people close to us.

Now unless we’re ‘under attack’ by the ‘now opposition’ (we’ve all come across one in our lives), why do we ignore things when we see the signs? Yet, when it comes to relationships, we expect people to stop what they’re doing and attend to our needs. A lot of things have become the norm when it comes to our individual needs and what we expect from people, normally, as we interact with them. So why is it different with people we look at as ‘having everything.’ If I had “everything” my emotional need doesn’t stop at the door and I would expect my family at least to be there for me; something “money” can’t achieve on its own. 

Some people have money but aren’t happy, likewise people who are famous and depressed. It’s the same for those without. Then some people have little/a lot and ooze happiness, however, this doesn’t exempt them from one bad day or week. Maybe more people need to be educated on Mental Health and overall, emotional well-being. In schools, at work and within the media too. Starting at a young age might be the solution because at this rate, a lot of people who should be responsible and appear to support awareness ‘campaigns,’ tend to act indifferent when it has nothing to do with them. We all handle things differently and have an outlet, whether you’re more open with your feelings or not. All I’m saying is; if you’re going to promote well-being or get behind something, do it all the way. 

Be Happy and Stay Healthy!    

Thanks for reading.      

www.essence.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/black-celebs-help-erase-mental-health

www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/celebrity-news/celebrities-speak-out-about-mental-health

5 Things I Have Learned Through Travelling

 

As of lately, I’ve been on a bit of a mission. One of them, is to tick off – the bucket list of places I’ve always wanted to visit. Okay, so I’ve got a bit of a fascination with the States and I’m currently in Atlanta! In my next blog, I’ll be getting into what I’ve gotten up to so far, and what the ATL has to offer.  (For those of you that travel or are new to this world of adventure, you may be familiar with a few things in this list either or…you heard it here first!

 5 things I have learned through travelling

 

1) Have an open mind.

If you don’t, you could end up getting frustrated over things you would otherwise overlook, within your hometown. It’s not about compromising who you are but having a little patience. This goes a long way, into having a fruitful experience.

2) I’m an ambassador for my country.

Whenever I visit a new country, people often tell me how they would love to visit London/the UK. I know its cold majority of the time, and I also know I’m not the only one that finds after being in a country majority of your life, things can get a little boring. However, the excitement I see in people’s faces lets me know, I can be –am, a great ambassador for my country. So with casual ”Hello’s” and informal introductions out of the way; ”Excuse me”? Think, selling point. High-time I get paid for it too!

 

Mama Mia

 

3) Self-Love

Ever heard of the saying ”it’s not you, it’s me.” Well if you’re new to a country, whether visiting or relocating and the odd person doesn’t immediately gravitate towards you, then fret not. They’re just as curious as you were; trying to explore that hidden gem of a market you heard about from your friend’s trip to morocco. Sometimes. So just swap that -timeless old saying around, the next time you see prying eyes. Really, ”It’s not me, it’s you.’’ 😊

4) I’m posh, and no amount of cockney slang in my ”and scene” moments, is going to change that.

5) You can make lifelong connections through travelling.

I have met many kinds of people, some in which I am still in contact with. Whether it’s through a mutual contact, being on summer break, work-related travel or simply through conversation in a social gathering; don’t be afraid to talk to people. Observe your surroundings (as a safety tip), now take the floor. At least, one person.

 

 

Sweet