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Mental Health: Do we really Care?

The term ‘Mental Health’ has been around for years and those within the Health & Social Care industry will be all too familiar with this phrase. Whilst ‘Mental Health’ came with a slight taboo in the past, (it was rare people spoke about it let alone own it publicly) –in recent times, Mental Health has been brought to the forefront through Charitable/Mental Health Organisations. 

Celebrities have also raised awareness as with the media within popular culture. With celebrities advocating’ for solutions and those that have/may experience Mental Health illness – for more attention to be brought to; you’ve either heard of the term or familiar with it. I’ve always placed importance on Mental Health and try not to separate it from physical & emotional wellbeing. In the sense that, I understand the importance of my physical health as with Mental – Health. Having a healthy balance with Mind, Body & Soul. (This includes who we surround ourselves with or what we’re exposed to). 

While studying parts of Psychology plays a part in how I see things, I’ve always been in tune with myself emotionally and understand that before I can do or take care of anyone else, I must take care of myself. It’s something to consider with relationships and our expectations with what we expect from our partner. Are we placing too much burden on others, or expect them to fix our ‘broken-selves’ which no one, can fix? Understanding this, I think, is key to a lot of relationships and reasons why they breakdown. Either way, Mental Health, is something that we should all care about as we all have it.  

There’s been a huge number of celebrities that have come out to talk about their issues with Mental Health and how they’ve survived it. The list includes:

  • Cara Delevingne
  • Selena Gomez
  • Halle Berry
  • Demi Lovato
  • Big Sean
  • Jay Z
  • Michelle Williams 
  • Justin Bieber and the list goes on.

Likewise, it doesn’t matter who you are famous or not, anyone can be vulnerable when it comes to Mental Health. In the past week, the Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle revealed in a clip of an upcoming documentary, on ‘motherhood’ that ‘no-one has asked’ about her being “okay.” With the recent backlash from the media; criticism she faces and the royal couple speaking out against the leaking of her letter to her father, I’ll be surprised if she hasn’t experienced a mini-meltdown behind the scenes, or prone to one. Seeing some of the reaction yesterday to the trending #Weloveyoumeghan, I managed to see some of the twitter responses. The few that I saw, made me ponder whether collectively as a whole, people care about those who are experiencing difficulties. 

I’m sure many came to her support and it was nice to see someone come fully to her defence but fan or not, if people can see something going on why is their usually an attack first before help is offered. 

You don’t have to like or be a fan of someone, to show them support. Either someone you know has experienced hard times, or, maybe a friend of a friend has overcome something major in their lives. Everyone needs time to heal and without judgement. While we may have added our two cents about a situation we think someone could have handled better (whether you knew them personally or not); if we were in that situation the last thing we’d want or expect – is to be judged or overly criticized. Sometimes it’s over something we can’t change. This is why some people don’t like to talk about their feelings or find it difficult to open up.  No matter what, always remember to take care of yourself.

There’s always going to be people that form their own opinions, haters or those that think you should be living your life the same as theirs. For as long as your happy and not hurting anyone, keep your head up high and carry on with your life. 

We’re all a work in progress and no-one’s perfect, no matter how hard you strive to be the best. But how we deal with people we see going through something depends on our mind-set. Our values to an extent, and how we treat people close to us.

Now unless we’re ‘under attack’ by the ‘now opposition’ (we’ve all come across one in our lives), why do we ignore things when we see the signs? Yet, when it comes to relationships, we expect people to stop what they’re doing and attend to our needs. A lot of things have become the norm when it comes to our individual needs and what we expect from people, normally, as we interact with them. So why is it different with people we look at as ‘having everything.’ If I had “everything” my emotional need doesn’t stop at the door and I would expect my family at least to be there for me; something “money” can’t achieve on its own. 

Some people have money but aren’t happy, likewise people who are famous and depressed. It’s the same for those without. Then some people have little/a lot and ooze happiness, however, this doesn’t exempt them from one bad day or week. Maybe more people need to be educated on Mental Health and overall, emotional well-being. In schools, at work and within the media too. Starting at a young age might be the solution because at this rate, a lot of people who should be responsible and appear to support awareness ‘campaigns,’ tend to act indifferent when it has nothing to do with them. We all handle things differently and have an outlet, whether you’re more open with your feelings or not. All I’m saying is; if you’re going to promote well-being or get behind something, do it all the way. 

Be Happy and Stay Healthy!    

Thanks for reading.      

www.essence.com/lifestyle/health-wellness/black-celebs-help-erase-mental-health

www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/celebrity-news/celebrities-speak-out-about-mental-health

Racism in Football

It’s stupid, and as much as I’d like to leave it at that here’s why I cannot. 

It dawned on me the other day whilst thinking about the football players I admire, the fact that I like the game of sport, as well as my enjoyment that is taken away from the game, a game, that should unite people who share one thing in common; football. Now although I’m not a football writer or expertise in the intricacies of football (especially the off-side rule – which I was slowly starting to get but VAR has complicated the issue) I am – a fan. I enjoy watching the Premier League and tune into the World Cup till this day. 

Everyone I knew growing up had a team they supported. People I know now, have their favourites and the point I’m trying to make is that football is going nowhere and hear to stay. So, why oh why is there such a thing as racism in football. Is it a closet thing or does it represent a wider part of a society where racism lies, whether it’s undertones or at work? 

No one can deny there are traits of it here within football in the UK, which in its entirety makes no sense, given the Black players that make up the league alone. From Raheem Sterling (one of the best players in Europe), to Rashford and Lukaku, the list goes on and they’ve all spoken out against racism. Just last month, Chelsea’s Tammy Abraham too. Having missed a penalty against Liverpool in the Super Cup, Abraham went on to say: “I had a lot of abuse…I wasn’t going to shy away from the situation,” continuing “it’s not nice to hear especially seeing your son getting abused.” https://edition.cnn.com/videos/sports/2019/09/09/tammy-abraham-chelsea-racist-abuse-uefa-super-cup-football-spt-intl.cnn 

He continues his stand against racism speaking before his recent game, England V Bulgaria. With the recent England Vs Bulgaria match, there was commotion during the game with chants that could be heard in the crowd. These were in fact – ‘racist chants aimed at England players.’ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7578687

It’s appalling and needs to be stamped out, as well as sports in general. More people should be speaking up on it particularly the higher – level-ups. Drilling into people’s minds, that nothing of the sort will be tolerated; such as match bans for the perpetrators, and full support being shown to players who choose to walk off.

The idea to ‘stick it out’ and ‘play on’ is fine, if its the player’s own decision but if a player wanted to walk off, who am I or anyone else to oppose it? If not that, larger fines should be given to the opposing team, maybe that way the coach will be fed up of having to foot the bill due to ignorant fans. If these things continue, I believe everyone (at least in football) should make a stand even if you weren’t a part of it. It was just ‘a few’…or ‘we are not going to let others ruin the game’ might resonate, but not with everyone, not all the time.

Imagine having some type of system in place with 3 strikes and you’re out, no home games. Implement this with away games perhaps; not travelling as an attendee neither, to the point fans would be forced to put up and shut-up rather than missing out. 

Prejudice, discrimination and racism will always be a thing unfortunately and stamping it out completely – well hell would need to freeze over, but there is hope. Hope because we have players that are speaking out and social media that helps to capture; who when what, the why, well maybe a bigger conversation has to happen amongst the association/leagues.’ On the upside, England won 6-0 so what we can take is that with determination and keeping your eye on the prize, you will and can succeed. 

It appears the ‘England manager Gareth Southgate and the FA plan to conduct personal checks on players/staff amongst concerns that the abuse left victims shaken.’ dailymail.co.uk/sport/sportsnews/article-7577189 

Victims being shaken including players being affected is why this thing needs to be tackled. Still, it seems the manager who can’t be faulted, is doing something to address the issue. Speaking after the match he stated: “We knew that if anything happened in the second-half we were off; the referee had said the same…” It’s great that the players worked as a team and in the face of adversity, went on to thrash Bulgaria to be fair. A conversation, followed by an action plan still needs to take place so that there’s ownership, and maybe someone can use their power to rid it from the sport. 

https://edition.cnn.com/videos/sports/2019/09/09/tammy-abraham-chelsea-racist-abuse-uefa-super-cup-football-spt-intl.cnn

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7578687/Five-Bulgaria-football-fans-arrested-racist-chants-Nazi-salutes-aimed-England-players.html

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/sportsnews/article-7577189/Harry-Kane-Gareth-Southgate-call-tough-sanctions-UEFA.html